Marriage as alignment

I understand why people say it.

Marriage is framed as an achievement. A milestone. A signal of security.

It just never felt that way to me.

Getting married felt obvious.

Not exciting in a peak sense. Not like a finish line.

More like a quiet confirmation of something that already existed.

I did not grow up with marriage as a life goal.

I never thought of it as "picking life up" or unlocking a new level.

If anything, it felt like naming what was already stable, present, and chosen.

We didn't announce much.

We didn't perform it.

We celebrated it gently, privately, in New York.

Simple. Subtle. Intimate.

What I feel misaligned with is the idea that marriage equals security.

I don't think life becomes secure because of a contract or a title.

Nothing is truly secure.

And if anything, marriage is where the real work starts, not where it ends.

Commitment is not a milestone you reach.

It is something you practice daily.

The love was already there.

The trust was already there.

Marriage didn't create them. It acknowledged them.

So when people say "congrats," I receive the care behind it.

I just don't fully resonate with the framing.

To me, this wasn't a leap.

It was alignment.

And love is still the only thing that matters.